The term “college kids” takes on a whole new meaning when talking to students who are old enough to have children of their own. Fourth-year College student Lavell Payne and third-year College student Teresa Reynolds are among those earning their degrees at the University after spending years in the work force and raising a family.
The combined challenges of school work and raising a family can make for a difficult life, yet there are reasons why students choose this non-traditional route through college. For Payne and Reynolds, it just made sense economically to come back at this time in their lives.
During spring 2009, Payne decided that the time was right to quit her job in Greensboro and return to the University with her 4-year-old son and 5-year-old daughter in tow. She was concerned about the effects of the economic downturn and felt that completing her degree was necessary to remaining competitive in the workforce.
Reynolds’ story is somewhat different from Payne’s. She is a grandmother and mother of three adult children and found herself in need of a résumé boost when, after 23 years as a master butcher, she severely injured her back and could no longer work at a job where she had to stand for long periods of time.
“In applying for new jobs, I realized I was unqualified to do anything else, because that’s all I had done all my life. So I went back to school,” she said.
To juggle their familial obligations with their academic ones, students like Payne and Reynolds needed outside help.
Assoc. Dean Nicole Eramo suggested Payne and fourth-year college student Kelly Cain refound a group called Students with Families, whose leadership had recently left the group, and tailor it to fit the needs of non-traditional students with families of their own.
Eramo said among the many challenges that go along with raising a family while attending college is the fact that nearly all of these students’ peers are significantly younger and from a different generation.
“We do tend to have a very traditional student body so that does sometimes make it difficult for students with families to find resources,” Eramo said.
Cain and Payne both wanted to create a support system for student-parents, not only to help out with childcare, but also to create a better social network for students with families.
“It’s a different experience in school, and it’s not something that other students can relate to very easily. So, when you find somebody who has children like you do then you have common ground and you can go from there,” said Cain, who raises a 3-year-old daughter with her husband.
Although Payne was able to meet other students like her living in the Copeley Hill family housing complex, she said it is difficult to do so for students who live off Grounds and are not connected by the Family Housing Association, a University-established liaison between students with families living on Grounds and the University.
Reynolds is one such isolated student. She commutes between Charlottesville and Warrenton on weekends, and lives in an off-Grounds apartment during the week.Because her children are older, she does not benefit from the group childcare offered by Students with Families, but she joined the group in order to have greater social interaction with other students.
“I’m a much older person in an environment around a lot of much younger people,” she said. “It’s kind of lonely.”
In addition to allowing parents to meet new faces, Students with Families also gives members the opportunity to swap ways to cope with their many obligations. For Cain, timing is everything.
“If you have a kid, always plan to be places 15 minutes early because then you’ll only be five minutes late,” she said.
Payne and Reynolds also believe in the importance of timing. Payne specifically coordinates her and her children’s bedtimes each night so that she will have at least four hours to do homework, while Reynolds always plans to have two classes worth of homework done before she goes home for the weekend.
For the time being, Payne and Cain are just focusing on expanding and publicizing their group. Currently it consists of five families with a total of nine kids, but as it grows, its members are hopeful that it will be able to take on a more active role in advocating for non-traditional students. Payne would like to see Students with Families work with the University to offer special discounts for the children of students for athletic events. Her children love to go to football games, but it is very expensive on a student budget. To buy them season tickets for this year cost her $240.
Reynolds’ goal for the group is to work with admissions to set a school-wide buddy system that would link older students together.
“It would be helpful to people to have someone close to their own age they can kind of lean on,” she said.