Love Connection: Annie and Andrew
Can this sporty girl and marching band boy play the field together?
Date: Friday, Nov. 18\nTime: 7 p.m.\nLocation: Boylan Heights
Annie:\nMajor: sociology and religious studies
Sexual orientation: straight
U.Va. involvement: Alpha Phi vice president of marketing, University Sexual Misconduct Board
Hometown: Seaford, Va.
Ideal date (person): White, tall, hair color is not an issue, athletic(!), good sense of humor is crucial, in touch with emotions but not overly emotional - vom
Ideal date (activity): Anything outdoors, dinner at Backyard, going to U.Va. sporting event[s]
If you could date any celebrity, who would it be?: I'm obsessed with Jay-Z - his swag is unprecedented. Bradley Cooper and Ben Affleck are hot too.
Deal breakers: Doesn't like sports, smoker, no sense of humor ... no thanks!
Describe a typical weekend: I like to go out with my friends and I do drink. Smoking isn't for me. Whenever there's a home football game you'll find me there - I love tailgating!
Hobbies: Running, frequenting people.com and sportsillustrated.com, being outside and outdoor activities - hiking, etc., going to sports games, cheering on the Boston Red Sox, shopping, funky jewelry, J. Crew.
Have you ever streaked the Lawn? It's on the bucket list.
What makes you a good catch? I can make you laugh. I can organize your desk and teach you how to dougie. I am a tomboy and a girly girl all in one.
Andrew:\nMajor: biomedical engineering
Sexual orientation: straight
U.Va. involvement: Drumline, Beta Theta Pi. I spend my Sunday [through] Thursday working on various BME projects, and consequently don't sleep.
Hometown: Orlando, Fla.
Ideal date (person): extroverted, thin-figured, nice smile, brunette, spontaneous, energetic
Ideal date (activity): A picnic on the balcony of the Colonnade Club with a nice bottle of wine. Then out to parties if dinner went well...
If you could date any celebrity, who would it be? Scarlett Johansson
Deal breakers: Not being sincere/trying to be someone they are not, can't hold an intelligent conversation.
Describe a typical weekend: Party Friday and Saturday night (my catharsis from biomedical engineering during the week), football game with the Drumline, homework all of Sunday.
Hobbies: DJing, drumset, skiing, scuba diving, dance floors, meeting new people
Have you ever streaked the Lawn? Obviously...
What makes you a good catch? I'm smart, extroverted, and I have a lot of fun when I'm not studying.
Andrew: I filled out the Love Connection survey because my friends convinced me to do it. I had one friend who went on a Love Connection date, and she was like, "You need to do this." I'm not the typical guy for a blind date, because I like having everything planned out.
Annie: I actually didn't fill the Love Connection survey out; my roommates did it as a "birthday present" for me and didn't tell me until the end of my birthday week. They knew that I would go through with it. I mean, yeah, why not? That's my attitude, I was like, it's something fun, and you can say you did it.
Andrew: Once I got to the Rotunda, I sat on the steps for a minute. We were both exactly on time, and then she texted me and asked where I was. We walked over to each other and she said hi. I was held up for a second, it was really embarrassing. I felt like a second grader. I didn't think I'd be so nervous during the initial reaction. It was like, "Wow, this is really a blind date." I had no idea who this girl was, which was thrilling.
Annie: I actually was by myself at the Rotunda, saw a person sitting up there, and texted the number [Love Connection] gave me. We introduced ourselves. He looked normal, not crazy. He looked really familiar, [but I have] no idea how I know him. I still don't know if he looks like someone I know. He's in the E-school, so I highly doubt I've run into him. I didn't notice that he was nervous when we introduced ourselves; he did a really good job of hiding it.
Andrew: I wasn't expecting her to be as cute as she was. She had a nice smile, but she's not my type. We ended up going to Boylan. I was going to offer up Lemongrass or Basil. I really wanted to take her to the Colonnade balcony and bring a bottle of wine, just because I thought it would be fun and I like doing quirky things like that, but it was 36 degrees outside so that wasn't happening with me being a Florida boy.
Annie: I just suggested Boylan for dinner, and he agreed. Part of my reasoning for going to Boylan was that if this totally tanks, there will be TVs there. But it didn't tank; he was easy to talk to. We sat at the bar and just kind of talked about general get-to-know-you topics, like school, where we're from; it was a normal flow of conversation.
Andrew: We talked the whole time. We've both been through rush and talked to rushees where [it is as if] you have to talk to inanimate objects. It wasn't a rush conversation, but it was lighthearted the whole time. I'm kind of a serious guy; I like to find out what makes somebody who they are. I wasn't about to do that because I could tell relatively early on that the spark wasn't there, which was perfectly fine. I could tell she wasn't incredibly interested in me because when we were at Boylan, her eyes were wandering a little bit.
Annie: It was really a friend vibe. We had some things in common, both being in Greek organizations, and definitely both really loving U.Va. But we were like polar opposites in pretty much every other way, like he's in the E-school, he's on the drumline, I'm not. He's from Florida, I'm not. The conversation was definitely balanced, not awkward. I'm not really uncomfortable around new people, and he was really nice. There weren't any "uhhh" moments.
Andrew: It was a blind date vibe. It wasn't awkward because neither of us are awkward people, but it wasn't like, "Hey, we're going to be great friends after this," or like, "This girl is my dream girl." The conversation was balanced; we spoke easily. There wasn't anything deep; I wasn't about to jump into politics or anything. I could tell there wasn't a spark, but I would've [started a deeper conversation] if I had seen something more.
Annie: After dinner, he actually walked me all the way back to my sorority house which was really nice because it's a freaking long walk. We hugged, said it was nice meeting you, and then I ran inside because it was freezing. He was really nice, the conversation was really easy, and he has a lot of qualities that my guy friends do have.
Andrew: She had to go to a date function that night, so I walked her to back to Alpha Phi. There wasn't anything bad about the date, so I'd give it a 7. I'm not going to make anything out of it, I figured out early on that she wasn't going to be the one. She's a great girl, she's a dream girl for a lot of guys - nice, cute, could talk sports - [but] I'm not a sports guy.
Annie: I'd rate the night a 7 because I had a great time and conversation was really easy, but it felt more like two friends hanging out [rather than] an actual date. It was fun; I recommend a blind date experience to anyone. Why the hell not?
Andrew and Annie ran into each other at a party the next night. They briefly said hi, and Andrew suspects that Annie was "judging [him] hardcore because [he] was having a crazy dancing night."
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Alum
(12/02/11 9:53am)Report
Her first quality for an ideal date is "white" but if she could date any celebrity it would be Jay-Z....
Rick Perry's Third Department
(12/02/11 2:43pm)Report
Good to know someone on the University Sexual Misconduct Board is open about her racial biases. This validates my decision to bring any reports of sexual misconduct straight to the Charlottesville Police. Thanks!
Alum2
(12/02/11 3:08pm)Report
How is saying that you're most attracted to a white person a racial bias? Or a form of sexual misconduct. If a black girl said she was looking for a white guy, would that evoke the same reaction? You go through life, you figure out who you're attracted to and you try to date those people to maximize attraction. Better yet, why am I even reading and commenting on this? Oh yeah - because life gets worse after college and you end up at incredibly boring jobs that lead you to read just about anything on the internet.
Sean
(12/02/11 3:20pm)Report
If I had a dollar for every college gal I've known that had very stringent height and family money requirements for a guy - and ended up getting traded in like a used car somewhere around 30.. It'll never happen at UVA, but the best freshman orientation for girls would be frank talks with 35 year old female alumni.
Em-Power-Me
(12/02/11 7:29pm)Report
He asked for a "thin-figured" girl. That descriptor is no more or less discriminatory. We're all entitled to our opinions about attraction... and as this date proves even a "white male" + "thin female" doesn't guarantee sparks.
Anon
(12/03/11 6:10pm)Report
in response to the comments re: Annie's description of what her ideal date is...She says "white", but then immediately bringing up Jay-Z, which speaks to her inability to realize what she thinks and what is, thus alluding to her potential inability to analyze information that she has to digest regarding a sexual misconduct issue. OR it just illuminates the difference between what she may, likely subconsciously, believe she has to say, which is a white dude, and what she's really interested in, which is a black dude.
So RPTD mentions racial bias in what I believe is an attempt to make that distinction, perhaps alluding to Annie supporting biases of white's only dating whites, since it was the first thing on her dating criteria, but clearly she thinks or wants otherwise, so it's hard to say what she would actually do in a misconduct hearing, which is valid.
To Alum2, I think an adequate response to you would be that to have a student on the sexual misconduct committee that can't see through their own unrealized potential racial bias is concerning. She's probably too young to even realize the disparity between her ideal date and what she actually described as Jay-Z as her first example.
EPM - he did say thin-figured, but he's just as guilty of then citing a person that doesn't fit the criteria. SJ is not overweight by any means, but she's not "thin-figured". She's curvy and petite, more voluptuous than anything. So in his mind "thin-figured" might to him equate "not fat", but his example again speaks to what he really wants, he just may not realize that the two don't match up.
Both are guilty, as are many of us, of saying what we think without realizing it's not really what we mean. What you think and what you do are often different.
Just pointing out the facts
(12/03/11 10:33pm)Report
"Annie: I actually didn’t fill the Love Connection survey out; my roommates did it as a “birthday present” for me" - before we all go crazy calling out this girl's racial preferences, let's take a moment to consider that they may or may not be the case, and may or may not be something she wanted to have published and put under a microscope. Many people have a racial preference in dating that is known to their friends, but not all of those are scrutinized this closely.
Anon
(12/04/11 12:01am)Report
True, but I honestly figured that was a load of crap. I have friends that go on Match and say their friend put them on there - that's how they explain why they're on Match, or had a date from an online connection.
Either way - she chose to follow through w/ it, but I don't personally know if she would have looked at what was submitted, if she in fact did not fill it out herself.
And since it was a Love Connection date, she had to know it would be made public.
Alum 3
(12/17/11 3:07pm)Report
Are you people absolutely insane? She (or her roomates) said that she prefers to date white guys. Just like Indian men tend to date Indian women, or black men tend to date black women. There is nothing wrong with having racial or cultural or ethnic preferences when it comes to dating, and it certainly does not make one a racist. Furthermore, the fact that she is a fan of Jay-Z, one of the most famous entertainers in the country, does not mean she "doesn't know what she likes" or is "confused." She will never actually date Jay-Z. She is merely giving an idea as to what her tastes are.
Love Letters For Her
(12/29/11 6:57pm)Report
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anon
(01/21/12 2:37am)Report
Obviously the girl didn't write it, it was submitted for her. Everyone has preferences in what they find attractive, be it blonde v. brunette or white v. African American. It has absolutely nothing to do with a racial bias.