It's been a real pleasure
By Kate Carlisle | April 24, 2006Do you remember losing your virgin-ity?The soft sound of waves lap-ping the shore, the taste of wine, scent of a vanilla candle and a near award winning choreography of sexual ecstasy? Ah ha.Not so much. For most of us, memories from the first time involve awkward attempts to recreate some Barbara Streisand Hollywood romance.But, oh, how is it that the most valiant attempts are often the most brutal.Trying to be too sexy, for instance, can quickly turn into a gruesome duel between you and your fearless underwear, that now have you harnessed in a half-nelson chicken-wing. Who is to blame for this unrealistic impression that sex (particularly losing your virginity) must somehow glisten with perfection?Hollywood?Religion?Our parents? Who cares, really.The point is that we can think for ourselves and consciously decide that sex is a skill, an expression and a recreation. First of all, the notion that "the first time" should be "the most important" is absolutely absurd.Is the first time you ride a bike "the most important?"Not at all... and in fact, you can and should expect the very worst.The same goes for sex -- the value of the experience is circumstantial and is best when you know what you're doing. As I was walking home from a 2 a.m.
